You are in the midst of a transition you never imagined having to face. Separation can be a time of anguish, confusion, broken trust and anger, and even with the very best of intentions you and your spouse can be pulled into a fight that neither of you ever wanted. While you prepare for what comes next, here are some suggestions that might assist you in keeping yourself together.
Accept that This is Happening
Denial is your most expensive luxury, right now. If it is possible to work things out with your spouse in a way that saves your relationship, that can be a true blessing. In the meantime, though, you cannot afford to turn away from the realities of your situation. Figuring out where you go from here is far more important than who is right and who is wrong. Let me assure you from personal as well as professional experience: it may not seem true right now, but you will get through this. While your emotions run like a roller coaster toward eventual healing, be sure that you take time to take care of yourself. Accept the help of your friends. You might be amazed and moved by just how much emotional support your friends can offer you during this difficult transition.